It's not just our eye color and hair color that we inherit—it's also the way we cope with circumstances.
When we prioritize our healing, we can learn how to cope responsibly to circumstances by communicating to be understood and by listening to understand.
And we can role-model these skills for our kids, so that they can inherit these healed parts of who we are.
And by responsibly, I mean responding to difficult moments in other ways besides being reactive.
And part of sharing our healed parts is re-pairing when we’re stressed out and we lash out reactively and impulsively because we lost access to our healed ways of responding.
Part of healing is giving ourselves grace when we’re stressed out and feeling caged in and unsupported.
Part of healing is soothing guilt and shame with compassion and understanding until guilt and shame dissolves.
-JLK
