To me, healing is noticing when I’m judging myself harshly or talking down to myself, or punishing myself for making a mistake or not doing what I promised myself I would, and interrupting this old routine with self-kindness, by checking in with myself to see which needs of mine aren’t being met, to see what sadness I have that never got a hug, to see what insecurities I have that never got any reassurance, and then giving myself some love. Love for all of who I am. No strings attached.
We don’t need to offer ourselves the abuse or the “tough love” or the depreciation we received as kids or even as adults. We can reinvent ways to support ourselves so that we feel secure, understood, motivated and fulfilled, one act of self-kindness at a time.
-JLK
